What it all means so far....

This ongoing dialogue has been extremely interesting and helpful to me personally.  I think the answer to my original question, "Why are women becoming sadder as they age?" is multi-faceted.  First of all, statistics can be misleading, and I'm not sure that ALL women are becoming sadder as they age, or that ALL women are less happy than their mothers were.  Secondly, it is quite clear from the discussions on menopause that depression is common during this phase of life.  Unfortunately, as women we all have to go through it--but, there are great suggestions for coping:  Exercise, good nutrition, spirituality, relationships/connectivity to our family and friends, gratitude, keeping a journal, and keeping a balanced perspective in regard to all the choices out there.  I think it is important to distinguish between serious depression, where one might need counseling and prescription medication -- with the "normal" day-to-day distractions, disappointments and stresses we must face, and then cope with.  We all have choices in how we cope.  And that is okay.  I have coped with stuff in my life differently from time to time, depending on what is going on.  I am not embarrassed to say that I take a daily dose of anti-depression medication.  Its a low dose, but it helps me stay in control of my emotions.  My nutrition and daily exercise fluctuate--somedays I'm better at it than other days.  But I do keep trying.  I especially enjoyed one of my friend's reference to her inspiration to quilt.  I also enjoy that creative outlet very much.  It eases my mind, calms me down.  So does being out in nature.  Our family often vacations in rural Wyoming, where I find it so beautiful, so soothing.  Ultimately, the relationships I have with others is my balm of Gilead.  I truly feel that relationships are the only thing that really matter in life, and thus bring you the most joy.  Relationship with God, with spouse, with children, other family members, friends, even neighbors and acquaintances.  Our interactions with others speak volumes of our inner character.  Are we kind, or are we impatient?  Do we succumb to road rage?  I realize no one is perfectly in harmony with their inner good intentions at all times.  That is the big challenge.  But you have to keep trying.  One day at a time.  Sometimes, one moment at a time.