From my sister, LA

What works for me is to "get physical". Keep my mind and body busy. If it is not within my power to fix the problem, then it's just best to pull a Scarlett O'Hara "Fiddle dee dee, I will just think about that tomorrow". Of course, if it IS something that can be addressed and possibly made better thru counseling or a support group, etc., then by all means, that should be done. You just need to made a conscious choice to be happy, which it sounds like you're working on, and that usually does the trick. Focus on your blessings, whether it be: 1. Roof over your head still.  2. Food in your tummy every day.  3. wonderful children/husband/pet(s)/friends (whatever fits your situation) 4. Good health if you are fortunate enough to have it. 5. Etc., Etc., Etc.

Sometimes it helps to talk to someone and just get it off your chest. I'm the opposite -- I clam up, but that's just me. I'm here for you if you ever want to talk.

Other than that, I know nothing! It's pretty much a shot in the dark, but eventually all things pass and all you need to do in hang in there -- I remember thinking that the world should stop revolving when my husband got so sick 6 years ago, then again 5 years ago when our son died, but guess what? Time DOES heal, and we survived to face another crisis, and in the meantime there have been so many spots of happiness in between those hardships (Kids/Grand kids to love and to make me laugh, a husband who knows/understands me like no one else ever has and makes me laugh, my beautiful tranquil mountains, etc.) I can't tell you how many times I've been sad and I've gone out on the back deck and just listened to the birds singing or the wind blowing through the trees (almost sounds like the surf breaking!), etc. Find what relaxes you and do it.